I have this document where I paste “clips” from other things I have typed, for ideas of future posts on my blog/website. It saves me tons of time, so I’m not slowly re-typing something I told to someone already, & I don’t have to decide what to talk about–a BIG deal for me (I never liked having to choose what to eat or wear, so I always made Mark cook, & now he chooses what I wear, too! Haha)
Anyway, while I haven’t posted in FOREVER, I have been keeping these “clips,” & now I’m so overwhelmed by them, I never post! I will try to remedy that now…
The last time I posted, I shared a link that has scrapbook pages I’ve done (which I still add to, btw, so check it out—I add about 4 or more pages a month). Since I post my scrapbook pages, I’ve had several people ask why I scrapbook. Often I answer that I scrapbook because I find it therapeutic by reframing my thoughts, but I have other reasons as well:
—it is a way to express myself artistically
—it is a way to “hold on” to my past self
—it is a way to re-live former experiences
—it is a way to share my life w/posterity, & show that life can still be enjoyed admits trial
—it can be empowering to see my accomplishments
—it helps me find & feel gratitude (which I need daily!)
—it can help me to see God’s hand in my life
So to update everyone, this COVID-lifestyle has been good to me (of course I can find negatives, but u know I don’t like to think about those, so here are the positives):
–I always can potty now
-people have more free time to help me
-restaurants now have tables spaced so I can get around—& stores have more room too
–while masks are annoying, they can also keep me warm (when I’m cold in bed, I essentially do the same thing, by pulling the sheets over my nose, so my own breath keeps me warm)
–being a “homebody” is what I like to do anyway
–I can get food delivered from ANYWHERE now…
I am now an empty nester (& under 50 years old!) It had a rough start for me—since poor Mark only has me now, I got all depressed thinking about how his life was so different with only me here, & I had to reface issues from 16 years ago, as this was not how I’d envisioned life after my kids grew up! I always planned to go back to elementary school once all my kids left.
So, I started thinking about how I wished I was different…for me, for Mark…But in talking to a friend, I realized that I had to change my focus–I realized that I know better than to dwell on what we can’t do–I get so depressed when I think that way about myself, so why would this be different???
So, I started thinking different. & while I didn’t miss disciplining whiny, moody kids, I did miss the fun (as any mom does–each child– even my new daughter-in-law, who spent the summer here–brings something unique…in fact, the 1st time I heard a recording of Sophie singing, I bawled!) So with all of the kids gone, the house became eerily quiet
But now I LOVE being an empty nester, & I LOVE all the time I have with Mark again! It is so nice to see Mark more the way I saw him 26 years ago, & for me to t feel as anxious all the time (part of that is oddly a thanks to COVID)! Plus, I think I was someone’s mom for long enough to forget who I am—or maybe I never took the time after my stroke to figure out who the “new me” was.
I had a plan all laid out, & while I thought 23 years ago that I’d be a teacher now, God had another plan…& because He has a sense of humor, he brought school to me: for a while, my helpers’ kids came here w/them, so one day there was a kindergarten class in my craft room, & the next day there was a 2nd grade class in my craft room… haha
With all my new “free time”, I signed up for a nutrition/weight-loss class that focused more on my mind & changing my habits & thoughts. It’s a 10-week course that focuses on these 6 “pillars.” In “Target 100,” I like how she does more with re-wiring the brain, & has a focus on emotional eating (which I do). Since I’m learning how to change some thoughts & habits, I’m hoping that some of the stuff I learn will seep into my OCD-personality, as my recent focus has been on managing that & my anxiety better (it wouldn’t hurt if I lost weight, too)!
But I was having a hard time managing my new phase of life, & I realized that a lot of my thoughts get in my way, so I got a “time coach” (a life coach, who specializes in time management). Seemed a bit crazy to start this (of all things!) when I was already busy, but our course doesn’t even start until my other class has 1 week left, & I sorta’ get “bonus help” in the meantime. Already he’s challenged some thoughts & helped me to take ownership or something with things I already knew from Mark.
I have more things I could talk about, but this post is long enough…Oh! No costume this year. So sad! I love to dress up, (it’s a whole new ballgame now, in a wheelchair!) but we celebrate our Halloween by going to our ward’s trunk or treat (which was different this year), but since I had no kids wanting to go, I stayed warm at home!