It has been too long since I posted. I think I’ve over-extended myself. When I do, the 1st thing to go is taking care of myself, so I’m re-gaining all the weight I lost the last 3 months, I’m doing less therapy, etc. The 2nd thing I do is put my church calling (a volunteer job) before my friends & family … hence, I rarely text or call my kids, I isolate myself a lot, & as u have noticed, I haven’t been posting. Sometimes I realize it & spend time w/Mark, or text one of my kids.
In my last post, I mentioned how I liked being an empty nester, & over Christmas, my youngest, Sophia, mentioned how when she hears how we like being empty nesters, & she feels like we are saying that we are glad she is gone — but that simply is not true! With the birth of EACH child, my marriage has changed—not in a bad way, but Mark had to share the spotlight. & I had to give up parts of me…& when I had my stroke, I lost a LOT of me—all but the “mom part”. So, I’m getting to know “the new me”, & that spotlight is back to Mark. I like having the chance to get to know me, & re-acquaint w/Mark (prior to my stroke, I prided myself on my multi-tasking abilities, & it made me so proud to know that when I was in the hospital, it took 5 women to do what I did alone…but now, I can only focus on one thing at a time, & finally that one thing is Mark!)
So that’s what I’ve been doing. There’s no feeling of “oh, good…he/she/the kids are gone”. I will always love & miss my kids, but it’s a nice change to have more time for myself & Mark!
Through the years I’ve re-gained parts (like having a church calling), so the time I spend for myself has been devoted a lot to my church calling. Our church has a program called “primary”. The church handbook describes it as: “a home-centered, Church-supported (children’s) organization. It is for children ages 18 months to 11 years. At home, parents teach children the gospel. At church, Primary leaders and teachers support parents through lessons, music, and activities.” The last few years I have voluntarily served as the primary secretary. Recently, I was asked to be the Primary President…yes, me! It was exciting & simultaneously scary in so many ways!
So, lately I spend a lot of time being a primary president. I love doing it & having more time to be with Mark! I just need to find a better balance!
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. We are getting close to being empty nesters and not going to lie looking forward to it. 😁
So thrilled that you are the primary president. I didn’t know until now. That is so neat! You have so much to offer and love to give. How blessed your ward is. Yay for the gospel, for always helping us to reach.
Happy New Year!
Thanks for your vote of confidence! Miss u!
That is sooo cool that you are the Pres!!! You will be fabulous and it will be a great experience for you and all that are in there with you! You never cease to amaze me, my friend! And I’m so glad you and Mark have more time together now – you both deserve it! Love you!
Thanks for your vote of confidence! 🙂 U’ve always been a great cheerleader!
That was an inspirational message Jenny. It was a good reminder to have balance in life. Tami and I just had our 36th wedding anniversary and that happened to be the day our last son moved out of the house. Now we too are empty nesters. I love it.
I’m confident you are doing great as the Primary President. Go Jenny!!!