My firstborn was recently married in the Sacramento, CA temple. (Yes, I am that old…) I have never seen someone so happy! As he danced with his new wife, my dear friend, Kathy, leaned over & asked me, “Aren’t u glad u are here?” I was grateful for her question, as my eyes filled with tears & my mind was flooded with a memory:
Shortly after my stroke (& while I was severely depressed & wanting to die), I remember Mark taking me out to watch our kids ride their bikes—as the 2 oldest kids had just been taught by Grandpa Lynn how to ride their bikes with no training wheels. As we watched them, Mark leaning forward & saying, “Aren’t u glad u are still alive to see this, & can be there for all of their milestones, like their wedding?”
So, a shout-out to my son, Zach, & his new wife, Maddie! I am happy I got to witness (2 meanings!) the event! Love u both!
At their wedding, a highlight for me was getting to stand & “dance” with my husband! At the end of the dance, we were able to share some advice with the new couple, but I’d like to do mine now…so, here’s a bit of advice for the newlyweds:
If u get upset with each other, serve willingly! I have always joked about how the stroke has saved my marriage, but I really think it has! Serving someone who has ticked u off is such a good way to be filled with Christ’s love, & soften your heart: I have seen my girls be sooo mad at me, & then as they are in the process of helping me, I witness their heart softening towards me, & by the time they finish, they apologize! & 9 times out of 10, I am the one who ticks Mark off (good thing I had the stroke, cuz there’s lots of service he can do for me-HaHa), & while it takes a lot of humility on my part to ask for help, he has never denied helping me… he may be reluctant at times, but he surprises me by always being willing!
& his willingness is the key because the marriage rates for brainstem stroke survivors are not good, despite the fact that they are serving their partner who had a stroke. Being willing shows love, not “servitude.”
Also a shout out to Kathy, who I had never met, but she bravely came to my son’s wedding! After my stroke, my family searched the web for any info they could find on brainstem strokes. There was little info to be found, but they found Kathy, who had had a brainstem stroke, & provided me with hope that I had a possibility to do better in this life, as she was walking, talking, & driving a car!
One last shout-out to my daughter, Jessie (aka “Hermana Lynn”) who was at the wedding in spirit, as she was physically in Iowa representing The Church Of Jesus Christ, & serving the Lord. Hats off to her for putting God 1st in her life!